Accountability

Now this may seem like a strange one to write about, however I feel like it’s important and it also leads into a bigger conversation. Having accountability, although may seem mean, but it’s really important, not just for someone with BPD. Being held accountable doesn’t mean screaming and shouting or pointing fingers. It means that our actions are our own and it can affect other people and vise verser.

For someone with BPD, life can be stressful, feeling like everyone is angry at you, so you push them away before they can hurt you. But you end up hurting them and also yourself. While having BPD causes severe distress and we end up doing reckless things, if we harm people, we need to able to apologise. But also looking at behaviours and seeing if there’s patterns, which can be incredibly difficult, which is why it’s important to have a good support system around you, people who have the understanding to know that your not doing it to actively hurt yourself or people around you, but also that will let you know when you need to step back and breathe.

From personal experience, it’s not easy, while I like to think I'm a good person, I know myself that I haven’t always been, there have been times where i’ve got into arguments, i’ve gotten upset, and not always been a good friend because my BPD was triggered.

Accountability techniques for individuals with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) involve a combination of self-awareness, coping skills, and support from others. These techniques aim to help individuals with BPD manage their emotions, behaviors, and relationships more effectively. Key strategies include setting clear boundaries, practicing self-reflection, developing coping mechanisms, and seeking professional help. 

Journaling can be a very helpful thing. At first when it was recommended it to me, I didnt really put much salt into it. However over the years I have noticed a difference, and when I look through my old journals, I really see a big difference in how I am. It can be a good thing to try and spot certain triggers, and seeing how things happened and why.

Boundaries.

Bounderies is, I believe, probably one of the best and most important thing that you can do, both for people with bpd and for people who are around you. It might be a case where if you have bpd and there are certain people in your life that are purposely or just triggering it in general that you put in strict boundaries or having limited contact with that person. Having clear and consistent boundaries is really important, such as communication. This also goes for family members and people around those with bpd.

Accountability is also getting the help that you need, such as therapy, which i know that in the NHS waiting lists are i credibly high, which is why its a good idea to see if there’s any good mental health charities in your local area. It might also mean going on medication in order to help symptoms.

For family members.

Learning about bpd, reading scientific research and also personal experiences can really help you understand. But it also helps to understand what kind of boundaries you need to set and how to approach the person with bpd to help them get help.